Stop Judging, Start Living

It's one of life's biggest secrets. Nobody is sitting around thinking about your every move. I mean, sure, maybe your mom is, but for everyone else, they're too busy worrying about their own stuff. Once you get that—and I mean really get it—you'll realize how freeing it is to stop worrying about what others think.

When you're constantly judging others, you're basically putting a giant "Judge Me" sign on your back. You’re expecting the same in return. It’s like throwing boomerangs and being surprised when they come back to smack you in the face. But when you stop tossing judgment around, it becomes a lot easier to handle what people think (or more likely, don’t think) about you.

Newsflash: most people are too wrapped up in their own drama to worry about yours.

Now, let’s talk about everyone’s favorite topic: pretending to be successful. We all do it in one way or another. Maybe you’re not out there trying to get a million Instagram followers, but you might be working hard to impress your parents’ friends or show off at your high school reunion.

Spoiler alert: when you’re 35, you’re going to feel the same way you do now. The only difference? You'll have a little more back pain and maybe a mortgage. If you understood that, you’d slow down and enjoy the process instead of speeding toward some imaginary finish line.

Everyone’s out here flexing—whether it’s with their flashy car, their job title, or how many steps they got on their Fitbit. But the real question is, who are you doing it for? If the answer isn’t you, then you’re wasting your time. If you can stop caring about how it looks and start caring about how it feels, you'll finally find what you're chasing. And I guarantee, it’s not found in impressing Aunt Carol at Thanksgiving.

In my best Joe Biden voice. "Here's the deal": when you stop judging and comparing, you actually start living. Life’s way too short to be worrying about what someone you barely know thinks of your new haircut. Stop giving power to the peanut gallery and start living for yourself.

Trust me, that’s where the real magic happens. And hey, if someone doesn’t like it? Well, they’re probably just worried about their own stuff anyway.